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How To Cope With Stress: Forgive and Let Go

Analogy

When you place a drop of dye in water, the water will change to the color of the dye. The dye becomes the dominating factor.

When you harbor anger instead of love, the anger becomes the dominating factor. The two can not coexist. One must dominate.

Forgiveness

If you are holding on to negative emotions and pain for long periods of time because of things that occurred to you in your life (i.e. someone wronged you when you were a child, you did not get the promotion that you wanted, your spouse was not faithful, i could have done this had it not been for that etc.) that anger and pain becomes the dominating factor in your life instead of love

Because you were created to be a creature of love , the anger and pain that you are harboring places you out of sync and it will be expressed as stress.

In this article you will learn how to cope with stress by forgiving. Forgiveness helps you to cope with stress because it has a healing effect.

How To Cope With Stress: Forgiveness and The Law of Compensation

The Law of Compensation states that you get what you give. The way that this law works in regards to how to cope with stress is when you give negative energy towards someone, such as anger, hate, prejudgment, those are the same emotions that you will experience in your life .

The Law of Compensation in Action

If I am giving off emotions of anger and resentment towards someone because of their wrong doings , then at the time that I am expressing those negative emotions I am actually experiencing being angry and resentful. As long as I express anger and resentment towards someone else, I will remain angry and resentful.

Do This Instead

If being angry and resentful towards someone else makes you an angry and resentful person then the opposite of this equation is true as well by expressing kindness and agape love towards people, then you in return will experience inner peace and joy.

How to Cope With Stress: The Healing Benefits of Forgiveness

In all honesty, I am not saying to any person who has been the recipient of harm that their situation should be ignored nor am I saying that they should not express any negative emotions as a response. What I am saying is that you can cope with stress by receiving the healing benefits of forgiveness.

The way that forgiveness heals is when you forgive a person, place or situation for all the stress that you believe that they have caused in your life, you are releasing all of the negative emotions that you have attached to a person, place or situation . When you are able to forgive a person, only then are you ready to experience joy in its fullness.

How To Cope With Stress: Forgiveness and Prayer

In order to experience joy in its fullness, you must release all negative emotions and replace them with positive emotions and with thoughts of love. When you practice unconditional love that is what you are inviting into your life. Understand, that you do not have to be in the same room with a person to practice unconditional love. You can give thoughts of forgiveness to a person as well as pray that they will be changed for the better.

Praying for forgiveness is not a one time event, forgiveness needs to be practiced everyday. The reason that forgiveness needs to be practiced every day is because every day there is a possibility that you are holding on to a negative thought that needs to be released. Some negative thoughts may be obvious to you such as when you make a negative comment after someone cuts in front of you in traffic and you hold on to that negative emotion far too long.

In that case you may need to pray for the driver as well as yourself. Other situations may not be as obvious to you such as hurts and pain from your past. These are the emotions that you have buried inside. The less obvious hurts and pain requires prayer in order to be bought to surface so that you may be healed.

How To Cope With Stress: Forgiveness in a Nutshell

Remember that when you are practicing forgiveness you are releasing what you do not want in your life anymore and you are focusing on what you do want. The healing benefit of forgiveness is that it gets your mind off of the accused and back on the experience of joy and fullness of life that you were created to experience.

Be mindful that you have control over whether or not you are going to experience inner joy and no person, place or situation can take your joy from you. You are in control over your state of mind because you understand that if you want to experience inner joy then you must give positive energy to others.

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